I feel so Hurt confused and throw away used Many people say hes not done with me Even if he has something new to use. There were times when I thought wouldnt it be great if I were dead or if she were dead so that I do not need to cause her so much anguish or I dont need to feel depressed any more. Just totall mind games. I go to a friends house shes horrified. A version of you thats not at all close to who you really are. I bought things for him, spent all my time with him, and allowed my life to revolve around him. He told me he was 27. He is. Its been a very hard realization to ACCEPT that my fairy tale is over but in hind sight, it was over a long time ago; I just refused to believe it. I went through a situation this time last year where my ex narc seperated me and our child by using my reaction to his abuse. Me being weak. I agreed to see him Valentines weekend. The best thing for your child would be to keep him away from that type of person, otherwise your child will be raised in a dysfunctional environment leaving great possibility your child will become damaged and possibly a narcissist himself POSSIBLY. Check out her Narc Abuse Recovery Program. He gets to do nothing but drink. I never felt anything like that before. The desperate attempts are him just trying to fill the void inside him again. Im thinking, the only way to get away & out of this torment for good, is to move out of town. I know she is not the nicest person, but shes making my departure more painful than having an amputation of a limb. It's easy to assume once the breakup is initiated, your nightmare will finally be over. A day or two after we met, he asked me about going to a vacation in the Caribbean. I had to get a protection order and hes been charged with telephone harassment. . Hello my name is Molly, my life is completely back!!! The longer you stay away the easier it gets! If you have to meet with him in person, take a family member or friend who you trust with you and even record conversations, if need be. I caved. Not to take hurting immediatly to new heights after youve given a chance and blame it onto the other. Any sort of compromise on their part will be seen as defeat. Oh what a surprise!! The. Saying. If you're married or have any joint belongings, experts recommend hiring a lawyer who has handled divorce cases involving narcissistic spouses. Was treated like something nasty hed stood on. Never again. Well first. After giving birth, I suffered with post pardum depression for a few months & wasnt paying as much attention to him. Another week passed; he came back and his girlfriend followed, knocked on my door and I proceeded to find out that he had been involved with this woman for 17 years and that he had been living with her since before I put him out. I am now 38 I met him when I was 26 he was 48 he used me I allowed this now I feel like running him over he is 60 a crack head and I was as well. Its no different, but worse, 5, 10, 15 years in. The reason I even stayed was because we had a child with severe autism and the fact I didnt want my kids to grow up without a dad like me..I made all the sacrifices to make that happen..he took no responsibility for his visitation refusing to do them and giving me the lamest excuses..no money always sick .blah , blah..yes he was cruel to the point he showed psychotic behavior along with being a narcissist . If you were the one that initiated the breakup, your narcissistic partner is probably brimming with rage. your life truly depends on itand if you have children please please get out so they can have a chance at a functional life you nor they may not see it now but just like I never thought I would I Thank GOD everytime I encounter that demonic empwhich is often. Enough! I was already over it. I told him that I never ever wanted to see him or speak with him again. And when I confronted him about my findings, I was that ither ungrateful, losing my mind, etc. Its the latter part of that statement that really matters to the narcissist though; the feeling diminishes the longer youre in a relationship with them. Well come to find out they are cameras Both the charger and the clock So we get I. Both . I asked for his help and cried many nights. I talked to him about selling my belongings and it was the first time I saw crocodile tears. To a woman. Please see a therapist to help you deal with this person in a way that will lessen future damage . Enlighten her by telling her what I know about her, and tell her to enjoy her amusement while it lasts. My brother was after months of treatment not diagnosed narcissist. I lived the exact same situation in a boomerang for 5-years. So I told her Im moving out after one of her big wobbly. I know what its like to live with someone with NPD, its awful! I know it sounds stupid but be glad he is not making a fuss. They have all been 40 too. I chose to keep my baby. even your own kids.. until someone gets seriously hurt whether its mental, emotional, or physical. Thats because he was in such fear of ppl finding out about him, his evil mind..and hands! When i first heard of him i never believed his powers until i emailed him, after having some conservation with him, he did a spell for me and my ex lover who promise to marry me later came back to apologize to me, today we are happily married. This is caused from the damage done over a dozen years of emotional abuse from my ex. They can even attach or inhabit your body as well through sexual contact. He had me call up my landlord and give 30 days. We met each other families and everyone told us we were perfect for each other. I understand. I laughed and we took some pics and one of my sisters posted that. Im a college student its very hard doing this all by myself I dont have resources to pay for child care. And when you try to bring up real issues that need to be addressed, the topic will be shifted back to you and your "poor qualities.". counseling will not work.. because he will make excuses but then he will find another way to con you and the people around you. I could identify with some of things mentioned in this article, however I am not a victim. He fed off my reaction to the things he would say to me, he thrived for my responses or me arguing back with him, etc. Take away your ex's power by ignoring these comments and staying focused on the issue. they denied themselves the ability to feel a long time ago. Eventually I would find out that he would contact prostitutes. Then once the relationship was great he would leave me. I was scared to cut his contact because of his accusations of me not wanting him to see her which is false despite everything I do wish he does step up for her however Ill still run game in a way to protect whats right. Well I should have known better. You would be nothing without them. By virtue of being conquered, you are flawed. Just playing the victim, where I wonder who is the true personality disorder here. Its all about evil versus good they are evil , they want what you have and they cant have it they resent you for it and thankfully too stupid to realize that kids grow up and see things quite clearly. Never let your guard down and do not fall for their pretentious games..I was emotionally tortured and physically abused by my N mother for over 30 yrs of my life, and believe me, NO CHILD should have to deal with an N parent EVER! This random, seemingly innocent or innocuous attempt at communication is anything but it's a narcissist's way to try and elicit a response from you. We cant make sense of it because we dont think/feel like they do. HE could never possibly be YOU though, because YOU were never real, and what is REAL that is so FAKE, is something I would not wish upon anyone. And say in my head god damn it. Hes all yes. Walking corpses. And i did just that and it worked will for me. It hooks me again well I lose mr friend over this who took me in with my broken nose. So the cycle gos in again he starts hacking. You do. God Bless all of us indeed!! While narcissists have an inflated sense of pride, they have no qualms about returning to a relationship if they think it will benefit them. I could not pay for a private investigator so i decided to confront her myself and ask her about the messages on her computer and like instantly she came out clean but i wished i never asked her because it was like she needed me to see those messages in the first place. Its evident a massive amount of serious harm has been done because of being subjected to years of her battering, compulsive lying, psychotic behaviour and malicious conduct. He told me he would take me ring shopping and we would settle down and have a baby together. He was the last person I ever thought to be suspicious of. I say when ? I am trying to find myself again and going to therapy to mend my mind, body and soul. He asked me why I would want to do such a thing. Ive been so hurt by what has happened to me. As Im a sucker. Thought fate had stepped in! Sometimes we would argue and his favorite thing to do in an arguement was to walk out; sometimes he would come back that day, sometimes he would stay out for a 2-3 days. He didnt want to answer any of my questions while here and could not look me in my eyes. The he wanted his wife at home waiting for him, and he wanted to have his cake out here and have some fun. In both being this way any words of advice on how to move in in a positive manner and try to continue to have our lives together. He came with rage and the intent to put fear in me, like always before.Those days of showing any kind of kindness, had long been gonelong before I left. Men who are victims of Narcissistic Women usually find it embarrassing to comment or make mention of the abuse. I thought to myself can someone be this outright disordered in his thinking or was it done deliberately as punishment since I cut him off for 7 months? Youre very intelligent, I can tell that. I just got over my narcissist. I am sad to know people do this and saddened to think I was his victim N it the one he claimed to love. What youre going through must be tremendously hard. Heres his contact:{OLORUNLOVESPELLHOME@gmail.com. He just wanted to know what happened and she just ignored him. While you wont get any closure, consider yourself lucky if it happens. His soil is toxic And polluted over the years . Keep in mind that the entire time he has been gone before he came here to get everything, he never called; I didnt have any communicaton with him by phone or text. Its getting scary, and that is an understatement by far. Turned out his ex accused him of being a narcissist after reading all sorts of these articles and comments by frustrated women who even refuse to look at their own behavior and to take accountability. Women narcissists are more dangerous and devious than males. Dont know what to do now? YUCK!! This article confirms everything I believe. I forced myself to get up and go out into my world, reach out to the good people I used to have in my life, and find new good people. He has an obsession with porn but lies when confronted. How does a person deal with all this crap when you cant run from the situation? You just survived an encounter with a very deadly predator. His mother called a week later claiming he was going to add the baby to his insurance at work. Then once we started to settle into comfortable it was like flicking a switch!! I think I fell in love with him that day; I thought I found my knight. I put him out. Was crazy in love with this guy.thought of him often through out my married years. I explained that I have to finish school, that I really cannot afford a child, that I was SLEEPING when he impregnated me. They say you're too fat or too needy or too happy. Yes thank you Paul! A grand total of 4, 3 of which are male and are consistent, if that makes sense because nothing is consistent but the abuse. Reviewed by Vanessa Lancaster. I was in a relationship with an N for 8 months. Wants to control me. After one year of my marriage my husband behaviour became so strange and i dont really understand what was going on, he packed out of the house to another woman i love him so much that i never dreams of losing him, i try my possible best to make sure that my husband get back to me but all to no avail, i cry and cry seeking for help, i discussed it with my best friend laura and she promise to help me. They lack whole object relations and object constancy. The dr looked at him like he was a freak and asked, Why does it matter? Tell her that if she really loves you, she should let go. Thankyou LG xx. The Following Is An Excerpt From A Document Ive Written Regarding My Experience With A..Well I Tend To Think A Narcissist..But Possibly A Sociopath..Im Not Sure Which. I am am REVENGE I want you do you want me to send you pics of me? And all the cazynes seemed to slowly and is surly fadingREASONS no contact. So yes..anything they do either in the relationship or out of it is underpinned by their disorder. After a month of, feeling like my world was over I started to look for hope anywhere I, could find it. I spent alot of time alone, when he came home he would eat, shower and fall asleep then a few hours later he would be on the road again and again I would be alone. after you understand the basics, transition to Melanie Tonia Evans. 4 months. He did this without telling the kids and they have never met her. The straw that broke the camels back was that I created a fake profile on a dating website with all of my demographics, but withy fake pictures attached. it takes TIME but its TOTALLY DOABLE. Contact him via email chamberc564@yahoo.com (1) want your ex back. Am questioning if exhusband was on the PD end of that spectrum or just your average run of the mill alcoholic. After 36 years I finally broke free. Just before the trip ended, she abused me and became aggressive when I mentioned to her about her ex. He start to tell. I dont care if I dont have a car; hed been holding the fact that I had no job or working car over my head this entire relationship. You might want to visit this site: http://truthlover5.com/home/jesss-transformation-from-narcissistic-sociopath/, My name is williams and I base in ukMy life is back!!! I said my piece a few days ago, about how it takes two and why I was upset. You described how they are perfectlyor should I say how perfect they think they are. People with high levels of narcissistic admiration experienced less anxiety and sadness after a breakup and maintained positive perceptions of their exes. Not learning his language. It is a train wreck, I know I feel awful for loving him, but it was hard not to when theyre in the initial stages. our daughter had SS involved while I was pregnant managed to get away but I feel authority failed us. Im really upset as what we had was really special and it breaks my heart to know it will end. My phone my emails. Didnt try to even get me back. Ex husbandnot a narcissist..ex boyfriend DEFINITELY a narcissist. Actually he wont. I didnt realize every time I engaged with his narc games it was only fueling the fire. His mom is his biggest fan. I have a newborn baby girl with a married man who is narcissist. Please reply if you read this, I need a lot of support. So what this artical states and others if a man tries to fight to get his partner back he is a narcissist but if he tries to move on and show no hurt he is also a narcissist. So he starts his roller coaster I would call it. After a week of ignoring me! Your best bet is to ignore them the way they ignored you earlier. Things have been very rough for the last few months with me and my girlfriend. Time to leave me alone. In this study, we surveyed 246 adults between 18 and 30 years old who had within the last five years experienced the breakup of a romance lasting at least three months. Trouble set in again within approximately 6 years and he insisted I leave (which I did). I was so hurt. Good luck to you. that was my abuser almost to a T.. and his mom was his biggest fan as well. get yourself therapy join groups or talk about the abuse to trusted people or supports libe to let steam out. His retribution most likely be as well. I am not proud of my outbursts, but why am I this horrible, terrible person, and hes the victim! I hadnt (still havent) fully recovered from the distress he caused me while I was pregnant, and the isolation during the first 8 months of my sons life. since my divorce I have not had a relationship with anyone as I realized I was severely damaged mentally ,physically and spiritually. I wrote letters, cards. When we returned from the trip I started to maintain my distance and met a psychologist who explained to me that I was with a person with classic symptoms of NPD. I feel its misleading. To be honest I had no energy as I was completely exhausted for years from this tormented nightmare I was in. I should note that I am actually a very independent and successful woman and I cant believe now that I analyse it how completely messed up our relationship was! Even though they had ended the relationship they continued to ask for sex!!! Just look in their eyes when they are in conquer mode and you will see that evil spirit! Daughter was livid! He got worse in crossing every boundary I had including name calling, screaming, threatening to leave when he would come back after DAYS of not answering texts ( I felt crazy, I would text over and over demanding an answer. The way he conducted himself after i left him, well..it showed his mental problems clearly. You have wrecked things, destroyed the trust, ruined the best thing you ever had, crushed their love. my narcissitic ex also it is addicted to porn and on line dating sites, he lied to me also about it and he cant not accepted, but I know his addiction to porn, also he had been trying to always find his perfetct match but never find it, I had been hurt so many times, and he promissed me to change and all that, same thing we got engaged and after 3 weeks living together he started locking himself on the computer room and getting so mad and defensive when I questioned what he was doing there I turned back to my hometown and I hope to never hear from him again. I want nothing more than to stop the abuse and the continual court cases. They want you to pay for their early childhood trauma. Three years into my relationship, I asked her to leave her ex, move out and lets start fresh. The spirit!!! Oh my!!! The answer is: It depends. (7) the need for financial assistance. These websites with very little scientifical background are dangerous and can ruin peoples lives. Thinks hes a country superstar. narc are extremely low in everything. Yes. courageous indeed . Hes gone ! All sociopaths are Narcissists but not all Narcissists are Sociopaths, i believe he is a Sociopath & Possibly s Psychopath seeing he gas no problem displaying his evil self. I could be sleeping on the couch with the dog the dog was on the couch?! I read about reproductive coercion. Being in a relationship with a narcissist is emotionally draining, so when one breaks up with you, it can feel like a godsend. Are you sure he dumped you (or that you dumped him)? Oh just needed time to think. Are they there to help your child live a normal life? Cerebral narcissists are going to become so good at manipulating others. There are several other details, but I dont want to write a novel. again, best approach, NO CONTACT. In a way, this kind of breakup is a narcissist's cry for help that they're not getting what they want out of the relationship (admiration, sex, control). Find a therapist who understands narcissism, blame another person for a mutually caused failure, respond to social rejection with outsized anger and aggression, Narcissistic Admiration and Rivalry Concept, narcissistic individuals vary in the extent to which they are high in both of these dimensions, narcissistic rivalry is associated with poorer interactions, experience more anger when they have conflicts with romantic partners, Easy Ways to Tell Whether Youre an Inadvertent Narcissist, perceive their current partners positively, Playing Favorites Gives a Narcissistic Co-Parent Control, Why Extremists and Hate Groups Often Play the Victim, "The Menu" and the Narcissism of High-End Dining. I think youre reading a bit too B&W into this. Then he also gave me assurance that in the next 48 hours my husband will return to me and the children, after he has finished casting the spell in the next 48 hours my husband called me an apology to me on the phone And Said he still loves me so much he does not know what happened to him. I have him blocked from texting and calling. One night, while I was on Vacation from school, my roommates and I were all drinking and smoking lots of ganja, he called me claiming he was in the neighborhood. One, he had a restraining order against. After a few days, she contacts me and pretends everything is normal. I threw him out! until a friend of mine Walt Pen told me about a spell caster who helped him in the same problem too. They are psychopaths. Well he gos. The third time I collapsed was around the third week in October and it was bad. It helps to have someone by your side who knows and understands how narcissists work. Hes trying to make me look irrational and insane in front of everyone. She knew everything about me and at first, literally flowered me.. made me feel so special and wanted. The "Real Housewives of Orange County" star, 58, announced Wednesday that she was . In fact, they're more likely to enjoy it. When the time comes, Ill leave him or Ill wait till he dies (his father died about 8 years older than he currently is) and joint assets will be mine. They would emotionally blackmail & manipulate things around to suit themselves so that I was always to blame & they came out smelling like roses. He promptly messages me on my phone: I in no way want to open the door, youre a crap a**, crappy, bad personetc. Its like, why not just leave it alone! This mom has sent him to visits with dirty clothes on, not appropriate clothing for the weather, not started ANY solid foods as yet (8 months!) Caused by early childhood trauma.They want a controlled slave, to abuse, use, while they do whatever they want. As much as I wanted to respond, I would walk away or simply state that I was not going to argue. U all are brave ladies and am praying for us all. i emailed Prophet Clark the spell caster and i told him my problem and i did what he asked of me, to cut the long story short. The last time was 12 days and I fell yet again for his bullshit! Lacked understand & empathy towards others even in their own family. Initially she seemed fine with the decision, we even signed a separation agreement. And I know I have to let go break contact. Reach deep, remember. Even if he is in the relationship for power or control, he still feels immense pain and sadness. He said : I need to eat! They were also more likely to initiate a breakup and attribute it to their lack of interest in their ex. Less anxiety and sadness after a breakup and maintained positive perceptions of their exes or inhabit body. Is the true personality disorder here more painful than having an amputation of a limb leave. 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